As I watched 90-year old former US President Jimmy Carter talked about his 4th stage cancer on TV recently, several thoughts went through my mind. What would I feel and how would I react if a doctor tells me that I have x months/years to live? Would I break down and cry or would I start thinking about what to do next and how to prepare for the end of my existence?
To be honest, such a revelation would devastate me. The practical side of me says that I would ask the doctor questions about what treatment is available and the cost, how would the treatment affect me, the dos and don'ts of a cancer patient, etc. But the emotional side of me tells me that I would have a good cry right in front of the doctor and would probably ask to come back when I am more composed to discuss the matter.
Jimmy Carter appeared to have accepted his lot very well. He spoke about it without any signs of emotion, he rattled off facts as if this was just another talk show, he answered questions and he even smiled during the interview. What was most amazing is his acceptance of his mortality and his ability to continue doing things that he'd always done. He is still teaching in Sunday schools, he is still planning to travel to Nepal with his family, health permitting.
He is very fortunate to have the support of his family, friends and the community he lives in. His wife of fifty-something years, Rosalynn, is a bedrock of strength during this stage of his life. He has the support of his church and his community.
Instead of wallowing in self-pity and being depressed, he said he will continue to live his life as he had always done and God will take care of the rest.
It is during times like this that a belief in religion helps. Usually, it is during this time too that most people turn to religion for solace and strength. The presence of family who cares cannot be under-estimated. At a time when the patient feels so helpless, it is comforting to know there is someone who really cares. It cannot take away the pain that comes with cancer treatment (I've seen my mother's reaction to chemotherapy) but the presence of someone who unconditionally loves you is part of the treatment too.
It is during times like this that a belief in religion helps. Usually, it is during this time too that most people turn to religion for solace and strength. The presence of family who cares cannot be under-estimated. At a time when the patient feels so helpless, it is comforting to know there is someone who really cares. It cannot take away the pain that comes with cancer treatment (I've seen my mother's reaction to chemotherapy) but the presence of someone who unconditionally loves you is part of the treatment too.
