Once in a while, I get into a philosophical mood and often wonder what actually is happiness? Are we happy with who, what, or where we are today? Are we having fun? Are we enjoying our careers? Are we excited about our future? Are we living our life to the fullest?
Most of us are searching for something, or sometime in the future when we will finally be happy. We tell ourselves that if we can only get to "that place," then our lives will be perfect. What we miss when we go through life with this perspective is the joy of today, and all the wonderful things that it brings.
So what will it take for us to be happy? Will it be the bigger house, the new car, getting married, getting divorced, becoming pregnant, getting a new job, moving to a new home, etc.? When will we stop running and enjoy what we have today? The search for happiness is internal and impossible to obtain from outside things. Sure, they may make us smile initially, but the emptiness will not go away.
Most of us are searching for something, or sometime in the future when we will finally be happy. We tell ourselves that if we can only get to "that place," then our lives will be perfect. What we miss when we go through life with this perspective is the joy of today, and all the wonderful things that it brings.
So what will it take for us to be happy? Will it be the bigger house, the new car, getting married, getting divorced, becoming pregnant, getting a new job, moving to a new home, etc.? When will we stop running and enjoy what we have today? The search for happiness is internal and impossible to obtain from outside things. Sure, they may make us smile initially, but the emptiness will not go away.
I see happiness as accepting who you are; the good, the bad and the ugly. It's knowing that you are doing the best you can do, and being content with that. This does not mean you ignore what you'd like to improve in your life, but if you only see what's missing, you lose out on "loving" what's great about you.
Being happy also means being grateful for your life….whether it's being grateful for having your health, a job, a place to live, food everyday, or a family that loves you. If you knew that you were going to die in 90 days, would you do things differently? Guess what? You are going to die one day, and you don't know if you even have 90 days. Gratitude, not blame will give you happiness and freedom.
Being happy means having sincere friends who would lend a helping hand in times of need. It also means little things they do for you because you are always being thought of. They accept you for what you are and will always bring a smile on your face no matter how low you feel. Last, but not least, happiness is having a round of golf with my friends and enjoying each other’s company and the lively banter on the golf course – even if we play poorly!
So, what is it going to take to have you be happy today? How much more of your life do you want to live waiting for "someday" to bring you the happiness you crave? It's up to you to create your own happiness. It's up to you to create a life filled with joy rather than sorrow. Why not choose a life filled with happiness today?
Always remember, today is the tomorrow you worried about yesterday and all will be well!
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